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Room for Sentiments: Blank RSVPs

Posted by on May 10, 2010 in Blog | 8 Comments

Currently, I’m in love with the idea of a blank RSVP card.  Too often people dumb down their guests and assume that if they don’t put a blank line with an M_______________  their guests will be too confused to know what to do.   However, recently, we sent out a formal invitation to over 350 guests for one of our clients weddings and opted to do a blank RSVP card with nothing but the notation of “The Favor of a Prompt Reply is Requested”.  I was AMAZED not only at the lack of CONFUSION, but of the bounty of warmly written, personal notes to the bride, groom and the bride’s parents (who issued the invite).  Still others opted for more creative and humorous responses (a giant YES in the middle of the card, for instance) as well as several, traditional, formal responses and declines to the invitation put forward.

picture-31Perhaps I’ve been reading too much Edith Wharton lately (which I have), but truthfully, there is something just absolutely lovely about written correspondence, especially as it pertains to your wedding.  Do you really want to keep a stack of generic RSVP cards w/ an M and a line for the rest of your days?  Probably not.  But a collection of handwritten notes from your friends and family on paper with your monogram on top… that is something exciting to receive and something nice to potentially keep.

Did you know, by the way, that in Ye Olden Days guests didn’t even receive an RSVP card? They were expected to send back a reply on their own personal stationery…. They then sent that note via carrier pigeon, but that’s neither here or there.

8 Comments

  1. Jo Nicholson
    May 10, 2010

    What a lovely idea and design. We try to discourage RSVPs so that the bride receives different cards and letters back, but this idea encourages the guest to respond and to write their own note.

    Lovely!

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  2. Lisa Green
    May 10, 2010

    We did a version of the blank RSVP card, it just said “The favour of a creative reply is requested by August 6th, 2008″ – we had 100% response rate prior to the RSVP date AND we got some seriously creative responses – poems, haiku’s, drawings, watercolors and my personal favorite, finding out someone was pregnant via them attaching a scan of their ultrasound and a note that said “the 3 of us will be attending”. It was so cute!

    I think guests appreciate having to be creative rather just checking off boxes or choosing their meal.

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  3. Maya Kalman
    May 10, 2010

    You’re SOOO right! This is so much nicer of an option in all respects! We did it almost 11 yrs ago for my wedding. I still have some of my favorite ones that were particularly sweet or funny (and some really funny thank you cards we received from guests who had a blast at our wedding) It’s a lovely idea. :)

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  4. Dawn Cowart
    May 10, 2010

    I love this idea as well! Too often we are afraid to let go and do something different.

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  5. Marcy
    May 10, 2010

    I would advocate numbering your cards, though, even if you do this. When I got married, I sent out something similar and still had idiots write “Yes, 2″ on the card. We ended up having to scrap seating arrangements because we had about 30 “who knows?” cards.

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  6. Ashley Rath
    May 10, 2010

    What a fantastic idea! I love it and it makes up for anyone who won’t be there or forget to sign the guest book. Another great memory from the wedding. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. Ashley Sue Allen
    May 14, 2010

    We are very much considering not doing RSVP cards at all, but if we do, THIS is exactly what we would do. Not only is it lovely, but I hate how unGodly lame and insulting and degrading we have made weddings that they fit this tiny, contrived formula, part of which is assuming that your guests are truly so stupid that they cannot figure out what to do to RSVP if we do not supply them with a stamped, self-addressed sheet of paper that says M______________ and __will be attending, __will not be attending.

    This is sweet. Truly.

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  8. Bruce
    May 21, 2010

    We are very much considering not doing RSVP cards at all, but if we do, THIS is exactly what we would do. Not only is it lovely, but I hate how unGodly lame and insulting and degrading we have made weddings that they fit this tiny, contrived formula, part of which is assuming that your guests are truly so stupid that they cannot figure out what to do to RSVP if we do not supply them with a stamped, self-addressed sheet of paper that says M______________ and __will be attending, __will not be attending.

    This is sweet. Truly.

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