We had such a delightful Saturday this past weekend getting brunch and checking out the art at The Armory Show. It was made better because we spent it with one of our former couples, Craig and Jessie who were married at the NYPL this past October and who were literally two of the most fun people we’ve ever gotten to work with. Maybe it’s because they were super creative and we all bounced a lot of ideas off of one another, or maybe it’s because we all enjoy a good cocktail: who knows? But, we made a fun bit of magic together and it was a blast.
For Craig and Jessie’s ceremony, we took inspiration from our venue: The Grandest Library of them all AND, of course, from an iconic bar- the lightbulb room at the Gramercy Park Hotel. We designed this amazing Non-Denominational Book Canopy as the centerpiece of an otherwise stark ceremony setting: no flowers, just lucite chairs and a lot of amazing lights from our friends at Luminous Lighting. (Photo by the one of a kind Dave Robbins)
It was so amazingly dramatic when Jessie made her way down the aisle! How stunning is her Reem Acra Glamour Pearls gown from Gabriella?
After the ceremony, guests filed into the other side of Astor Hall for cocktails, and we parted those fabulous red velvet curtains so the structure could serve as the backdrop for our bar. During cocktails we invited guests over to visit our “Librarians” to get their seating cards (crafted by Regas Studio)
This is just the tip of the iceburg with this gorgeous wedding! A million degrees of thanks to the team at Creative Edge and Luminous Lighting and Regas Studio! They literally worked around the clock to make this magic come to life. And of course thanks to Craig and Jessie for being generally awesome.
This weekend the weather in NY was insane, as it can only be in March: it snowed and sleeted all day long on Friday only to have Saturday be one of the most beautiful days of the year. It got me thinking about the approach of Spring and Spring got me thinking about picnics and then I thought I would share these dreamy images with you of a fabulous picnic we planned for Teresa and Jonny last year. The picnic was one of several events around their destination wedding in New York and we held it on the grounds of the Morris Jumel Mansion here in New York. It’s hard to believe that anything this idyllic exists within the madness of Manhattan, but lo, there it is. It was an elegant and delectable picnic with vintage picnic baskets packed with delectable lunches from A Perfect Picnic. Wendy there was amazing. Each basket was for 2, and so we lined them all up on the walkway when guests entered and attached tags with guests’ names so that it forced people to chat with another guest they may not know as well. We spread out beautiful Pendleton blankets and umbrellas around the lawn and guests played croquet and ring toss and lawn bowling on antique sets we found on Ebay. Waiters kept guests form getting thirsty with endless rounds of picnic drink ranging from Ashy (Miller High Life) to Classy (a fabulous Cava!). All in all, a perfect day. Enjoy these gorgeous photos by Jonas Peterson.
Last week we had the pleasure of being hosted for an amazing overnight at the Ocean House Resort in Watch Hill, Rhode Island. Sarah True of True Event put together the most lovely group of ladies including Mayra and myself, Caitlin from True Event, the Abby and Emily from PaperMoss, Annie Lee of Daughter of Design and Jackie from Merci New York. We had an amazing time in the hands of Toni from Ocean House, including a delicious and fun dinner for which Abby B. of Style Me Pretty. Abby was the perfect addition to our merry band because she not only had been a client of True Event and Paper Moss, but her wedding was one of the first weddings after Ocean House completed a massive renovation/restoration.
The 5 Star resort is nothing short of amazing, with ocean views from nearly every angle, unbelievable service, outstanding food and gorgeous decor throughout the property. I could go on and on, and if you want to see some of my favorite moments of our trip, by all means visit my instagram page. BUT, because I could only dream of how dreamy a wedding at Ocean House would be, I stalked Abby’s photos on Style Me Pretty (have you seen the re-design yet? looks fab!) and I’m posting BUT a FEW of my favorites here. Design and Planning by True Event, Stationery by PaperMoss and photography by Leila Brewster…
I am so in love with their wedding because a) it was beautiful b) it involved Del’s frozen lemonade, which after 4 years of college in RI, we are obsessed with as a summer RI tradition and c) Abby’s husband is ALSO a Brown Alum, making him awesome for additional, personal alumni related reasons. Anyway, they had the Brown Derbies (the historic Brown Acappela group) perfrom at the cocktail hour. For more images of this stunning wedding, visit SMP.
Reception Location: Ocean House
Ceremony Location: Watch Hill Chapel
Photography: Leila Brewster Photography
Event Design & Planning: TRUE Event
Invitations: Paper Moss
Cinematography: Elysium Production
Flowers: Sayles Livingston Flowers
Cocktail Entertainment: The Brown Derbies
I recently decided to re-read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I had attempted to read it when it first came out and was clearly not really ready to absorb what he was saying.. The gist of the book is that if we can make these Four Agreements with ourselves, we will find life much simpler and in turn, be happier.
Anyway, as I am re-reading it for general purposes of Life, I realized that working in such an interpersonal and emotional field as weddings these Four Agreements are especially helpful to practice at work. So, I thought I would share!
1. Be Impeccable with your Word. “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” Translated to weddings: try not to complain or gossip (even about the competition!). Don’t undermine yourself or your abilities even to yourself and if you make a commitment (even to yourself… let’s say to blog more, etc) keep it. This last one for me is the hardest: we get invited to so many events and I often get excited and say yes only to realize that I can’t actually fit it in. So for me, that aspect of this agreement is probably the hardest… because in a way, I just say YES without really assessing if it’s realistic that I can make it or not. I always feel badly when I have to cancel, and I should be more careful in the upfront- to avoid feeling badly and avoid breaking my own word.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally. “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” A few weeks ago I had done a post about exactly this. Although we interact (in some cases frequently and deeply personally) with our colleagues and clients, we have to avoid the tendency to take anything personally. Even when someone chooses to not hire us, it has nothing to do with US specificially, as much as they are looking for something else other than US for whatever reason having nothing to do with US. So, it’s never personal.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions. “Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” I don’t think can express this any more clearly than it is already here. Just remember this goes not only for your vendor colleagues, but also with clients. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need to do your job well .
4. Always Do Your Best. “Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.” I think this is so especially helpful in those moments when things go wrong and we are in the midst of other people’s behaviors that we can’t control. If in any situation, you commit to doing your own personal best in that moment, you not only will know you did anything and everything within your means, but you can avoid the classic “beating oneself up.”
Hopefully these Four Agreements will resonate with you and help you avoid those moments of stress or anxiety that often come up in this business.
When all the guests are gone, and the top layer of the cake has been stored in your freezer, obviously you and your spouse will lay in bed talking about all the fun that was had and what it felt like when you saw each other for the first time that day and how amazing starting your new life together is.
Which is why I just about lost my mind when I saw these amazing, elegant quilts from Comma Workshop. They will custom embroider your wedding vows, the story of how you met and, of course, you wedding date into their absolutely stunning and luxury quality custom quilts. These three different looks will blow you away. We are IN LOVE!
Love the idea, but want to spend a little less to customize? What about these personalized pillowcases from UPPERCASES? These Egyptian cotton pillowcases are digitally printed with romantic messages and graphics. Below is the standard Mr. & Mrs. pillowcase, but you there are tons to choose from, or you can design your own! I can’t get over these quilts! I have to post one more photo! Sweet dreams everyone!